3DAA-exercise
- Select one phrase from the list below or choose your own realistic statement:
- I am confused
- I am wondering
- This is too hard
- This is upsetting me
- I just do not feel good
- I am not responsible for everything
- The other individual must create a safe, and light atmosphere by radiating appreciation and preferably admiration for your experience, thoughts and/or words until you feel a shift out of that mode of being.
- Hints for the one radiating appreciation:
- Use only soft focus attention (‘mold + model’)
- Do not think about resolving the issue at hand,
- Don’t feel superior, sympathetic, or concerned,
- Raise your vibration to exceed your partner’s,
- Do not try to explain, get involved in, or solve the problem presented,
- Allow yourself and the other just to be present,
- Apply the C2C on any resistance you encounter when using this tool.
- Hints for the one being appreciated:
- When feeling a shift, communicate that clearly,
- Give feedback in a way that the other can identify with what works,
- Don’t say: “you keep missing it”,
- Say instead: “are you too serious?” or “I can’t feel you over here” or ”I almost shifted”.
- The shifting process exercise is non-vocal. Radiate appreciation from as deep within you as possible. The deeper you can go, the faster the other will shift out of their current mode of being.
- Do NOT ask the other anything or judge them. This will retard the shifting process. Responding to words will encourage the other to pay more attention to what they say and thus go on even longer. This will draw you into their creation of perpetual thoughts and feelings. Both of you will now get more serious instead of less. Seriousness is a harmful state of being. It perpetuates and amplifies trauma.
